Marshall Goldsmith is a famous executive coach, who has worked with more than 80 CEO's in the world's top corporations. He has a fabulous new book out called What Got You Here Won't Get You There. Actually, the title is not very descriptive, but the subtitle says it all: 20 workplace habits you need to break. It's a content-rich, well-written book.
While Goldsmith warns against self-diagnosis, I found the list incredibly helpful (even though I am not and never will be a CEO.) The practical, real world advice he provides for conquering these bad habits is immensely useful. Here's his list of bad habits:
- The need to win each time
- The overwhelming desire to add our two cents to every discussion
- The need to pass judgment on others
- Needless sarcasm and cutting comments
- Starting with "no", "But", "However"
- Need to show how smart we are
- Speaking when angry
- Negativity: the need to share negative thoughts even when not asked
- Withholding Information
- Failing to Give Proper recognition
- Claiming credit we don't deserve
- Making excuses
- Clinging to the past
- Playing favourites
- Refusing to express regret
- Not listening
- Failing to express gratitude
- Punishing the messenger
- Passing the buck
- An excessive need to be "me": exalting our faults as virtues simply because they're who we are
Read the book. You'll learn a lot about yourself, and how to improve (slowly.)
As a way to get our discussion going on this blog, let me ask all of you two questions about your bosses (not about you, but your bosses.)
(a) Which of Goldsmith's 20 bad habits would you say is the most damaging?
(b) Which do you think are the most common?
17 comments:
Richard, I believe what is most damaging is not the actions themselves, but the person's stance that creates these actions.
A great lesson from improv is the idea of saying "yes" first to new ideas.
When one actor tries to steer the direction of an improv scene, ignoring the "gift" presented by the other actors, the rhythm, the humour and the chemistry immediately break down.
Great conversation, effective meetings, successful cultures almost always have "Yes, and ..." somewhere in their foundation.
Actually, I think this "bad workday habits" post points directly to your Sunday post and the Islamic message:
"Very often, we are concerned about our own welfare and the souls of others.
"It would be better if we would be more concerned about our own souls and the welfare of others."
This type of "finger pointing" and judging others' "bad workday habits" in the interest of what?
"Fair anlaysis of another" points to the first part of the Islamic saying ... that is, it's easier to "fix" and "take care of" someone else by pointing out their foibles (their soul) and be concerned about my own welfare (feeling safe by diverting attention away from me), than the reverse.
While Goldsmith warns against "self-diagnosis", I hope he doesn't warn against "self-reflection".
As I belong to the "there's no such thing as compartmentalisation" school of thought, and in keeping with the lesson in the Islamaic saying (looking at our own souls), I might suggest printing out this list and giving it to our spouses, partners and children and in a quiet setting ask them to respond whether I manifest any of these habits, and, on a scale of 1-10, which ones are most common and which are most damaging to a healthy relationship.
I would bet $1.00 that what he/ she/ they say with respect to who I am and how I am at home reflects who I am and how I am at work.
"Know thyself", for me, is the first tenet of creating healthy, honest and mutually respectful relationships at work ... and it seems, at least to me, it is with that Islamic saying as well.
It's what's underneath the behaviours that's important to explore.
Often, in my experience, one's ego needs for control, recognition and security are often the drivers and root causes for such "bad workday habits".
Actually, Peter, Goldsmith also suggests that getting feedback is the key.
I just turned it around for the sake of our blog discussion.
Of course, it's really about US, but it's still interesting I hope to ask which of these are most damagingly displayed by THEM?
Richard,
I would say that the most damaging is "Punishing the messenger".
It cuts off communication and candour and WILL drive behaviour changes in many staffers that will isolate the manager.
As for the most common, I've seen all of them in action, but "Passing the buck" is probably the most prevalent.
Mike
... and to answer your question, Richard, #5 is the most damaging.
Negating reduces dialogue, limits options and is the antithesis of "yes, and ..."
It is a combination of several of his points, but one of the most common and damaging practices I've seen is when someone isn't honest about mistakes.
If the boss never admits a mistake it is hard for an organisation to learn from the mistake.
I've seen some people try to call the mistake a success.
This type of behaviour keeps the people they direct from learning to avoid the same type of mistake in the future.
Here is an exerpt from an article showing an example of this type of behaviour:
There was a large organisation that was beginning to saturate the market for its services at a particular location.
The leadership decided that expanding to a branch office was the right decision.
They leased a building, renovated it and began operations.
It was soon apparent that there was a problem with the cost structure at the branch office.
Many of the methods of doing business at the main headquarters were very inefficient when scaled down to the size of the branch office.
To make matters worse, the branch office didn't attract many new customers.
Most of the clients were existing customers who had previously done business at the headquarters building.
After a few years the main headquarters built a bigger building and the branch office was shut down.
However, the organisation told people that the plan had always been to shut it down once a larger headquarters was built.
While much of the staff knew that this wasn't the case.
By trying to hide the fact that the branch office had been a failure, they were unable to learn from the failure in a way that could help enable successes in the future.
Without this opportunity to learn, it is very likely that any future branch offices will suffer a similar demise -- assuming that the organisation even attempts another expansion.
I have to be very happy employee.
I don't find my current boss being notorious on any of above points.
I can hardly point several violations of a couple of them.
However, my previous boss was violating most of them.
In that case I'd say the most damaging was a need to win every time.
In discussion, in business, in virtually everything.
In vast majority of cases any discussion etc was a waste of time.
My favourite quote from him is "It's like that, because it's like that".
The most common of his habits was not listening.
He wasn't listening anyone except himself, one of his fellow directors and (as it's said) his wife.
Even his assistant said that any dialogue with him was simply impossible.
Hard to select a "most worst" habit here, but I'd agree with Pawel and say it's not listening, #16.
Not listening is a catalyst to the other bad behaviours, in my opinion.
It kills client relationships, destroys team dynamics, and breeds cynicism and selfishness in workplaces (and in people).
Richard -
Excellent post.
Interesting responses, too.
If I could only pick two "worst offenders", they would #7 and (to join Pawel and Brandon) #16.
Both are communication issues: speaking in anger leads to incorrect language, while not listening cuts communication in half.
Tom
The Daily Machete
Generally practical advice for oneself, but when propagated in the workplaces verges on thought control.
For example, the criticism of "Starting with 'no', 'But', 'However'" is more of an attempt to change your language than it is of fostering a positive workplace attitude.
The purpose of changing the language, of course, is to encourage staff to think of all initiatives as consisting entirely of good points.
This is not true, of course -- and the use of the word "but" is helpful when distinguishing what is worth keeping and what is not.
How often have I said,
"I agree with you.
"We all want the organization to function more smoothly as a unit.
"But executing dissenting staff is not the best way to get there."
I think most of these habits can be grouped into "Not caring about others".
But one thing that I would like to add is: giving promises and not fulfilling them.
The most common case in my work: one of employees wants to retire and manager starts to "care about employee": s/he talks about career objectives, bonuses, salary rates, training & etc.
But, in fact, this is done just to avoid losing employee.
Some time later, employee understands that manager won't fulfil promises and quits the job with a very bad perception of manager.
I nominate the toxic combination of the necessity to win every time and killing the messenger.
When those combine in someone in a power position they cut off both information and co-operation.
My initial call was "not listening", reading the other comments made me think about the options to look for themes rather than individual options.
How about Ego?
Doesn't that sum up many of these, and drive the others?
I don't count myself entirely innocent here either, to my embarrassment.
Having "themes" which cover the principles, or quotes which outline a broad idea can help to get the underlying message across, but the specific points help to focus the mind of the sorts of things we (they?) do.
It's all too easy to say I agree that the theme is bad, but I certainly don't act in those ways.
The specific points are more difficult to dodge, and thus are possibly more likely to result in change.
Greetings Richard:
Interesting that you should mention Goldsmith's latest text.
I've read the book and thought it quite good.
Coincidental to reading through his twenty habits, I'd been doing a bit of my own research on this subject.
I respectfully think one could combine a number of the twenty he mentions, and I also think that there are a number that he has missed.
For instance:
Some Other Behavioural Problems of Leaders:
• Acting Vindictive & Vengeful.
All of us experience hurt and injustice; but not all of us keep meticulous track of who did us wrong and how we can even up the sore.
These leaders have a motto that reads "Don't get mad, get even".
These people "quietly" act as if they are recounting slights and grievances they've carried for years, mull over every offensive word or deed they have encountered, and are now deliberately concocting plans for retribution.
• Always Pushing Workaholic.
For these leaders, their work is an intoxicant.
They cannot live without it; they are addicted.
They are constantly self-driven to do more, much more than is expected or even needed.
Their compulsions spill over onto others.
Workaholics often grumble that their colleagues aren't pulling their weight.
They cannot settle for being simply "good enough" and in almost any project they will single out a small detail that isn't quite perfect.
Their standards are often demanding and unrealistic.
• Procrastinates.
Throughout the personal career of most professionals, success has hinged on analysing situations, covering all bases, and not making mistakes.
When those same analytical traits are brought to managing a firm they can contribute to over-analysis, indecision, and ultra-conservative behaviour -- hampering entry into new markets, the introduction of a new service, or fully implementing important growth projects.
• Avoids Conflicts At All Costs.
More common than one might expect, is the managing partner who prefers to remain on the sidelines, prefers to isolate herself behind an air of neutrality, doesn't want to take a stand for fear of being criticised; and avoids engaging in any contentious discussions.
They are consumed by the question, "What will people think?"
These leaders permit differences among partners to go unresolved, allowing for an environment of simmering animosity.
They rationalize that intelligent professionals should be able to have honourable differences of opinion and hope that it will all go away.
• Domineering and Controlling Presence.
Some leaders pay little attention to their impact on others.
In their daily interactions with partners, they rarely allow others to assume the spotlight, dominate to the point where people are hesitant to offer fresh information, and generally suck the enthusiasm out of any meeting they attend, through their continual talking.
They desperately try to retain control, refuse to delegate, and act as if anyone else's preferences were of little consequence.
• Blindly Insensitive To Others.
This is the leader who is prone to stepping on another partner's toes and doesn't seem to know it; hurts people's feelings and does it quite innocently.
This individual will often display a complete lack of tact as they blurt out critical comments or share a rumour they've just heard with little sensitivity to the emotional consequences.
I have a session scheduled next week with a group of managing partners where I had intended to pose similar questions to the two you asked.
I'll keep you advised of what I learn.
Thank your for posting this list.
Just reading it was like nails on a chalkboard.
I think the most damaging are:
• Failing to Give Proper recognition
• Claiming credit we don't deserve
• Both are team, motivation and ideas killers.
I agree with the comment that most of these bad habits are related to ego.
I would also add that they are related to attachment to knowledge, or the accumulated mental and psychological content that allows no space for change.
As a change facilitator, I work with people to help them become aware of their voice of knowledge/ ego and help them intend to release their identification with it.
Once they start to do that, the bad habits start to resolve.
4, 8 and 10 are the most damaging in my mind.
Those actions severely degrade the morale of an organisation and unfortunately they seem to be the most common in mine.
Where does this kind of behaviour belong inside a workplace to begin with???
I feel alot of companies would or can benefit if they would decide to put all of their employees through a Behavioral Mgmt. Course as a condition of employment or future employment.
How can we expect people to behave professionally inside a workplace when they don't know how to act?
Most companies have handbooks -- that explicitly point out what isn't tolerated -- so why are these behaviours condoned inside of the workplace to begin with?
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